It’s been my issue. I say sorry even when it’s not appropriate. For years, I was unconscious about it. Then about 7 years ago, someone mentioned it to me and I noticed just how often those 2 words were spoken.
I’d be sorry for bumping into people or if they were upset. I’d be sorry if I did something by accident. I was just sorry. all. the. time.
I know why I do it. It’s because I don’t like the feeling of conflict in the air. When people are happy around me, I am happy.
But the real issue is that it’s unrealistic. People can’t be happy all the time. I’m certainly not. I have my moments.
Fast forward 7 years and I know those words sometimes pass my lips. But further and farther between. I will say “excuse me” instead, which often is more appropriate. If I bump someone or if I need to get around someone. But I know, when times are tense, I will echo “I’m Sorry”, in hopes that it will allow peace to seep in. It seems like a small sacrifice for a bigger pay off.
But, about 2 days ago, my 2-year-old daughter was playing with her dolls by herself and I heard those same words. “I’m sorry” she tells her doll. Then, as she is passing the dog, she says it again. “I’m sorry”.
Maybe most people would just pass it off like it’s no big deal. And may be it isn’t. I just know I’ve never heard my 4-year-old son say those words. And there is my sweet, innocent little girl being sorry for nothing.
She need not be sorry for anything.
And neither should I.
I am practicing the art of embracing conflict. Not being sorry that it is happening around me. Being strong and powerful in knowing that conflict is just another emotion and there is nothing to be sorry for. I have a bigger purpose to fulfill now. My daughters confidence and power is not to be messed with!